First Contact…

Every thing in life happens in stages… this holds true in swinging as well.

First you joke about it, then you talk about it… then you talk about it more, then you fantasize about it and discuss it during lovemaking. You might pick up or rent an adult movie then the next thing you know you are on the internet going through posts on craigslist! It can be frustrating at times especially as an ethnic couple once, you have overcome all of the hurdles involved in accepting swinging as a lifestyle choice…Finding partners to play with!

If you think about it you may not want to go out and about soliciting your neighbors at the supermarket! And being both ethnic and professional you might not want to hit every local swing club in town… people may not know what you are doing inside but people do know that it is an adult establishment…Remember if you have kids and family you might want to use a little discretion

But there are safe options out there if you just put a little forethought to it.

Going on a vacation? Believe it or not there are a lot of resorts that are very swinger friendly and if you broach the subject right you might find that there are more couples vacationing than you think looking for the same thing you are! The great thing is these are people that you never have to see again unless you want to keep in contact.

The reality is that even though we do not suggest approaching friends unless they have expressed an interest in the subject, there are more people curious or involved in the lifestyle than you would think! You might want to invite said couple over for dinner and drinks and leave a swinging DVD in half hidden view if they take the bait pop it in and see where it goes but let them make the first move/suggestion of it going further.

Another thing that you should keep on hand are a few adult party games, there are a bunch of board games that incorporate drinking and ways to break the ice and loosen inhibitions amongst willing adults and I have found some that have kind of hidden safety feature, allowing you to tone it back a bit if people are starting to feel a bit uncomfortable.

Of course there are always the online classifieds and posts on bulletin boards but we suggest that you read the whole Swing Safely help file and think out carefully your level of participation with folks via classifieds.

In closing remember that after you get your rocks off you still have to live in the same neighborhood and your kids (if you have them) still will have to go to school and you will still have to go to work or run your business. So use common sense and discretion in expanding on your sensuality.